Question 1

What is a MIAM?

Accepted Answer

A MIAM is a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting. It is a private, one-to-one meeting (usually 45 to 60 minutes) where I will explain the mediation process, answers questions, and assesses whether mediation is suitable for your situation.

In a MIAM:

• You will get to hear more about the principles and the process of mediation. 
 • You will get to share information about the situation you are in, and to tell your side of the story. 
 • You will have the opportunity to ask any questions. You will assess whether you feel that mediation will be suitable for you and your family. 
 • The mediator too, will be able to assess whether mediation is the right process for you.

Question 2

Do we both need a MIAM?

Accepted Answer

Yes. Each person usually attends a MIAM separately before joint mediation begins. This ensures you both understand the process and have a confidential space to share any concerns.

Question 3

Do you offer online mediation?

Accepted Answer

Yes. Online mediation via Zoom is available, and you can also choose a hybrid approach with some sessions in person and some online.

Question 4

What if the other person refuses to mediate?

Accepted Answer

Mediation is voluntary. If the other person does not wish to mediate, I can still meet you for a MIAM to explain options and next steps, and may be able to send an invitation explaining the process.

Question 5

How many sessions will we need?

Accepted Answer

It depends on what you need to decide and how complex your circumstances are. Many people make progress over a small number of joint sessions after their MIAMs. Ruth will help you set a sensible pace.

Question 6

What is shuttle mediation?

Accepted Answer

Shuttle mediation means you do not sit in the same room. I would move between you (or between online breakout rooms) to support a safe, structured discussion. This can be helpful where direct communication is too difficult.

Question 7

Can children be involved?

Accepted Answer

In some cases, and only where appropriate and agreed by both parents, children (often aged 10 or above) can share their views in a safe, separate conversation (child inclusive mediation). This is handled carefully and with the child’s consent.

Question 8

Is mediation confidential?

Accepted Answer

Mediation is confidential and conducted on a ‘without prejudice’ basis, meaning proposals discussed cannot usually be used in court if mediation does not proceed.

Question 9

How much does mediation cost?

Accepted Answer

A MIAM is £95 per person. Joint sessions are £160 per person per hour (often 1.5 hours). Document drafting is £75 per person, only if documents are required. See the Fees page for examples and voucher information.

Question 10

Is a mediated agreement legally binding?

Accepted Answer

Mediation produces written proposals, but these are not automatically legally binding. If you want legal formality, you can take the documents to a solicitor who can draft a consent order or agreement for approval, where appropriate.

Question 11

Can I bring my solicitor to mediation?

Accepted Answer

Mediation is designed for you to attend directly. Many people take independent legal advice outside the sessions, particularly when finances or formal agreements are involved.

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